Thinking about how a lot of what's been discussed in my journal and elsewhere this week about bisexuality (particularly as it pertains to women) and how it has a lot to do with gender and gender performance--maybe even more than orientation.
Thinking about how identity/politics get coopted for marketing purposes (feminism vis a vis the Spice Girls and "GIRL POWER"; female homosexuality vis a vis T.A.T.u., the Russian "lesbian" duo--who, as far as I'm concerned, have earned a place in hell solely for their cover of "How Soon Is Now?").
Thinking about growing up with a lesbian for a mom in less-than-tolerant days and places than 2006 in San Francisco--thinking of promotions not given, jobs lost, telling landlords her partner was a "roommate" instead of a lover because they wouldn't have rented to us otherwise. Hell, that was in Berkeley. Thinking about how shortly after we moved to Florida, two of my friends needed to sit me down to tell me they'd seen my mother kissing her "friend"--them expecting me to what? Freak out? Kill myself? Well, they were really upset by it. And wasn't I? Thinking about how having a lesbian for a mom meant I needed to go see the "TRUST" counselor in junior high, who ironically broke confidentiality and told my science teacher, who then used that bit of knowledge and an empty classroom as a way of--but I don't even feel like getting into that.
Thinking about the first girl I knew of who came out in my high school (as bi) and how scandalous it was, how people talked about her--Ew! I can't believe she kisses girls. How do they have sex? She probably has AIDS--and this in Miami Beach, the first municipality in the country to pass a law prohibiting discrimination against gays and lesbians. (Progressive, but what of queer people who identify as neither?) Thinking about how a couple of years later, after Madonna had her affair with Ingrid Casares and bought a house in Miami, bisexuality became chic and trendy enough for a couple of the rich girls in my senior class to start holding hands in the hallways because it "made guys horny."
Thinking about my mother telling me when I was 15 that I was rebelling by being straight. Thinking about her mocking me when I was 20 and told her I was bi--It's a phase. You'll get over it. Thinking about my best friend from high school telling me, when I came out to her, that I only thought I was bi because my mother was a lesbian--and then later telling me she was bi, but that she couldn't ever have a real relationship with a woman because she wanted to work in politics some day.
Thinking about how K almost got kicked out of high school in Huntington Beach for taking a girl to prom in 1991. Thinking about how I got harassed walking with my arm around my first real girlfriend on the boardwalk in Huntington Beach in 2000. Thinking about how a good friend of mine and her trans husband got sexually assaulted and beaten outside a bar in Santa Cruz last year. Sometimes blue states can still give you the blues.
And I think that's maybe enough thinking for now. The insomnia just cried "uncle."